It is said that half of all divorce in this country is due to money. Of the remaining marriages, there are often at least some underlying tensions due to income inequality, financial management or control issues.
Which side are you on? It is rare that both spouses make the same money. You may be the stay at home mom that sees it as the husband’s role to make the money and your job to save the money. You struggle to make every dollar go farther. Every purchase decision is carefully considered.
Spend some time in an upscale restaurant near a mall and you will get a glimpse of the other wives, the ones that say “what is yours is mine, and my job is to spend it.” They cruise through their errands in their new Beemers and Benz’. Shopping bags are piled in the back as they continue their mission to consume.
According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, as late as 2006, 26% of men were not the breadwinners in their homes. Personally this sounds like a dream come true, but the research shared by CNNMoney.com says that men in this position are often unhappy. Oddly, even when the women become the breadwinners, we men are not picking up our fair share of the housework. (You are making us look bad guys!)
Of course we also have the most common situation, where the husband is primary or sole income earner.
How do you feel about the differences in income between your and your other half? Are your financial management skills equal or is one of you carrying the full burden?
Guilt weighs on some spouses for not contributing “their fair share.” Others are riding the coattails of their spouses success for all the fun and glory they can!
What would it be like to change shoes with our significant other? What would you do anything differently in their shoes?
I can imagine. My wife had a strong work history before staying home. She has also been active in the community and PTA organizing events, managing people and thinking on her feet. I could see her back in the professional world. (hint, hint dear 😉 )
What would it be like to see my wife get up early everyday to leave for the office? OK, so this is a little selfish, but at first, I would love it! After over a decade of leaving the house when everyone else is still in bed, it would be a pleasure. At first.
Over time however I don’t believe the domestic life is for me. The kids are getting older and are developing lives of their own. While avoiding commutes and business travel would be a welcome change, vacuuming would get old real fast. No more meetings would be fabulous, but the routine tasks and roles of a home maker would leave me unfulfilled. I know I need more challenge and more variety.
While I could imagine my wife working, I cannot imagine myself doing as good a job at home as she does. In fact, I would be proud if I could do half the job. The only thing I would do differently is blog and/or start a small at-home business.
What would it be like to go from home maker to breadwinner? While an honor, the responsibility for supporting a family can be a huge emotional drain. The knowledge that the quality and future of your families health, nutrition and education lies solely on your shoulders can induce significant stress. If you are not currently the breadwinner in your home, what would you do differently if you were in our shoes?
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